I think, the journey of parenthood is like a roller coaster. Sometimes there are moments of joy and pleasure and sometimes the process assembly difficult and painful. All parents struggle turns to nurture and protect their children. However, children of this generation are impatient, frustrated and angry.
It was not common scenario of all family members who have no children are their parents crazy with their demands and whims. Despite all the luxury and the kids love to complain and express their anger against, or that it has chosen.
Anger is not inherently a bad feeling. Such as happiness, sorrow and pain, anger, feeling unnatural interest of the people. He, the beauty of expression tears made the worst situation. Children, some if they get difficult, if not meeting with the brothers fought. some in case, they have their friends and bite at the slightest provocation. Some children in puberty, including verbal abuse to parents, and decides to their homes of slackers in anger destroy.
As already mentioned, the anger is normal, but if it in terms of abuse and violence can, the undesired results and contingent liabilities as well is uncontrolled anger among children may.:
1. Growth of complaints from neighbors and teachers
2.Fight with siblings and friends
3.The embarrassment of the parents in the public
4.Social boycott and the release of the child in anger
5.Injuries to children with other
6.Inability to manage anger and controller adult
7.Damaged relationships with parents and family.
These results are terrible enough to pay to give sleepless parents. In addition, behavior problems is not the child be able to live healthy and happy in the society.
Who is responsible for the growing anger in children? No, no children responsible. The environment in which they live and teach them to explode, a developer and rage like a bomb. Most of the time the children learn their anger in a wrong way to express parent. They carefully observed the reactions of the parents in difficult situations and unfavorable. They see their parents crier, herald, threw intangible rights, the use of coarse language of the United Nations, banging doors, and who of wrestling, sometimes bitter between them when their expectations do not react in the situation.
Parents are role models for children behaviour. Your behavior and defines the model, in which children express their anger. Children learn their price supports proposals initial anger of the parents and family behaviour! Therefore, it is parents and families to teach children to manage Anger in a friendly manner.
Sunday, May 1, 2011
Sunday, January 9, 2011
Mom, Here Are 5 Effective Parenting Advices
Parenting styles differ from one parent to another. There may be no "right" parenting tips in general but there are effective parenting advices that have been proven to work. In this article, we will share with you a simple guide to good parenting. Being moms and dads may be the most difficult task in the this world but that does not mean that you cannot succeed in raising wonderful children.
Below are some effective parenting advices that can help you:
1. Always remember that you can never spoil your kids with love. Many would tell you that by holding your children so much or that by responding to every need they have have is wrong. As parents, know how to draw the line between "enough" and "too much." Giving your kids material things that you do not necessarily may be a form of spoiling but giving them enough love and affection can never go wrong.
2. Be responsive to their cries. There are reasons why babies cry. As a parent, it is your obligation to understand why she is crying. Crying is your baby's means to communicate with you. She wants to let you know that she needs you so it is important that you make her feel the sense of security through the magic of touch.
3. Be a disciplinarian. Be a teacher. A lot of new parents worry too much about disciplining their children. Disciplining does not always mean spanking or punishing your little ones. To discipline means to teach what is good. Parents should serve as a guide for their kids. Know which parenting tips is appropriate for your kids' behavior.
4. No solid food for babies before six months. The recommendation for solid food has changed through the years. Today, experts and pediatricians are telling parents not to feed babies below six months. Solid foods should be introduced slowly. Start with starchy baby cereals like baby food vegetables or rice.
5. Sleeping with your baby in the same bed. Many say that sleeping with your baby in the same bed is dangerous. However, the truth is that sleeping together with your toddlers or babies is still safer than putting them in cribs in a separate room.
No mother or father is perfect. Everybody has his own imperfections. In most cases, the mistakes we make are due to lack of information and poor judgment. Good parenting does not come with an instructional textbook. Rather, it comes from experience that you learn along the way. Enhance your skills by observing like-minded parents. Reading effective parenting advices will also play a huge role.
Below are some effective parenting advices that can help you:
1. Always remember that you can never spoil your kids with love. Many would tell you that by holding your children so much or that by responding to every need they have have is wrong. As parents, know how to draw the line between "enough" and "too much." Giving your kids material things that you do not necessarily may be a form of spoiling but giving them enough love and affection can never go wrong.
2. Be responsive to their cries. There are reasons why babies cry. As a parent, it is your obligation to understand why she is crying. Crying is your baby's means to communicate with you. She wants to let you know that she needs you so it is important that you make her feel the sense of security through the magic of touch.
3. Be a disciplinarian. Be a teacher. A lot of new parents worry too much about disciplining their children. Disciplining does not always mean spanking or punishing your little ones. To discipline means to teach what is good. Parents should serve as a guide for their kids. Know which parenting tips is appropriate for your kids' behavior.
4. No solid food for babies before six months. The recommendation for solid food has changed through the years. Today, experts and pediatricians are telling parents not to feed babies below six months. Solid foods should be introduced slowly. Start with starchy baby cereals like baby food vegetables or rice.
5. Sleeping with your baby in the same bed. Many say that sleeping with your baby in the same bed is dangerous. However, the truth is that sleeping together with your toddlers or babies is still safer than putting them in cribs in a separate room.
No mother or father is perfect. Everybody has his own imperfections. In most cases, the mistakes we make are due to lack of information and poor judgment. Good parenting does not come with an instructional textbook. Rather, it comes from experience that you learn along the way. Enhance your skills by observing like-minded parents. Reading effective parenting advices will also play a huge role.
Thursday, December 30, 2010
Mom, My Toddler Drinks Too Much Juice! What Should I Do?
I think that a lot of parents realize that too much juice is a bad thing. So if you catch yourself saying wondering how to reduce the amount of juice your toddler drinks, I’ve got an idea that works really well in my household, and I’m happy to share it with you.
Not only is your child consuming far too much fruit at one time, but when you drink juice (rather than eat fruit), the sugar passes to the intestines and is absorbed into the bloodstream much faster than if you just sat down and ate some fruit.
The sugar in fruit juice is called fructose, and just because it comes from a fruit doesn’t make it “healthy”. Sugar causes the body to release a massive surge of insulin, and the insulin works to remove sugar from the bloodstream. The sugar goes away, the insulin lingers, and you’re left with a not-so good feeling in your body. Ever wonder if this contributes to toddler behavior problems?
Simply put, I sincerely believe that fruit juice consumption should be limited to a half glass per day in kids. If they want more, give them actual fruit. Cut up apples, pears, or other fruit and have them snack on that along with fresh vegetables such as celery, carrots, etc.
Here’s what you do. Take about a teaspoonful of lemon juice from concentrate. That’s about a cap full if you buy it by the bottle. Mix the lemon juice with a splash of fruit juice such as OJ or Apple Juice. I mean just a splash for flavor. Then, add a couple of ice cubes and top up the cup with fresh cold water.
Regular water is great – and you should encourage your kids to drink plenty of it. But for something special, this easy recipe adds some natural flavor to the water while severely limiting the amount of sugar in the drink.
Why Should I be Worried That My Toddler Drinks Too Much Juice?
If you’re not already convinced that drinking too much juice is a bad thing, you need to stop and simply think about how much fruit is required in order to make a glass of juice. It actually takes about 4 oranges to get this amount of juice. Fruit is great, but cramming such a hefty amount of it into your stomach all at once is not such a good idea.
Not only is your child consuming far too much fruit at one time, but when you drink juice (rather than eat fruit), the sugar passes to the intestines and is absorbed into the bloodstream much faster than if you just sat down and ate some fruit.
The sugar in fruit juice is called fructose, and just because it comes from a fruit doesn’t make it “healthy”. Sugar causes the body to release a massive surge of insulin, and the insulin works to remove sugar from the bloodstream. The sugar goes away, the insulin lingers, and you’re left with a not-so good feeling in your body. Ever wonder if this contributes to toddler behavior problems?
Simply put, I sincerely believe that fruit juice consumption should be limited to a half glass per day in kids. If they want more, give them actual fruit. Cut up apples, pears, or other fruit and have them snack on that along with fresh vegetables such as celery, carrots, etc.
A Great Fruit Juice Replacement
It’s called … WATER. Yes I’m serious, but I think there’s a great way to “spruce it up” so that it is more interesting for your child. You can show them this “treat” and make it exciting for them so they ask for it.
Here’s what you do. Take about a teaspoonful of lemon juice from concentrate. That’s about a cap full if you buy it by the bottle. Mix the lemon juice with a splash of fruit juice such as OJ or Apple Juice. I mean just a splash for flavor. Then, add a couple of ice cubes and top up the cup with fresh cold water.
Regular water is great – and you should encourage your kids to drink plenty of it. But for something special, this easy recipe adds some natural flavor to the water while severely limiting the amount of sugar in the drink.
Sunday, December 26, 2010
Mom, Communication Problems Often Masked as Child Behavior Problems
It’s so easy to label something that your child does as “bad behavior”, isn’t it? Sometimes it isn’t what your child does, it’s what they don’t do. You tell your toddler to go do something, he or she refuses and you get mad. You raise your voice, your child cries, and you’re all having wonderful fun, right?
Let me share a little secret with you.
Parents almost always forget to ask questions, therefore missing an opportunity to gather important information. Asking a few simple questions to your toddler or young child will often solve problems.
Here’s an example from my own life. My youngest daughter was just shy of her third birthday. We had finished “quiet time” in Mommy and Daddy’s room, watching some cartoon shows together before bed. The kids knew the routine well. 7pm rolls around and it’s bedtime. First we brush teeth, and then we go snuggle together and read books.
When I said, “OK – time to go brush your teeth”, my daughter looked at me and said, “No, I don’t want to brush my teeth”. I began to explain to her that we’d snuggle and read books only after she brushed, but I could see she was already starting to tear up. Something was not normal about this.
I think that in most child/parent scenarios, this would have turned into a tantrum, and nobody would have been happy. But I knew the power of asking questions. So I asked a very simple question. “Sweetie, what is it that you don’t like about brushing your teeth?”
You know what she said to me? I would never have expected this reply. She said, “I don’t like the toothpaste”. She said it with a hint of fear, as if brushing her teeth was an act that forced her to taste something awful. Immediately I remembered that we had just bought the kids a new tube of toothpaste. It was different than what we normally used. Obviously, she didn’t approve – but she hadn’t said anything before this moment.
I put my arm around her and said, “Oh – I understand … you are telling me that you don’t like the toothpaste. That’s ok. We don’t have to use that toothpaste. We can just brush with water tonight. No toothpaste. We can go to the store together and get you a new toothpaste that you’ll like”.
If you are thinking that I’m just a big softie, think again. There is no reason that I feel compelled to force my kid to brush with toothpaste that she hates. If I hated my own toothpaste, I’d throw it away and buy a new brand. Why treat her with any less respect? This isn’t prison.
In the end, she was completely happy to brush her teeth, just not with that particular brand of paste. I got her to bed with no fights, no crying, and plenty of hugs.
The most powerful lessons in life are often very simple. In this case, the lesson is to ask good questions. If your toddler doesn’t want to eat something, ask what it is about it they don’t like. If your child won’t wear a particular piece of clothing that you’re trying to dress him in, ask what he doesn’t like about it. You might just be surprised to find out that the food gets stuck in his teeth, or the shirt has a tag that itches the back of his neck. If you don’t ask, you’ll never know.
Let me share a little secret with you.
Parents almost always forget to ask questions, therefore missing an opportunity to gather important information. Asking a few simple questions to your toddler or young child will often solve problems.
Here’s an example from my own life. My youngest daughter was just shy of her third birthday. We had finished “quiet time” in Mommy and Daddy’s room, watching some cartoon shows together before bed. The kids knew the routine well. 7pm rolls around and it’s bedtime. First we brush teeth, and then we go snuggle together and read books.
When I said, “OK – time to go brush your teeth”, my daughter looked at me and said, “No, I don’t want to brush my teeth”. I began to explain to her that we’d snuggle and read books only after she brushed, but I could see she was already starting to tear up. Something was not normal about this.
I think that in most child/parent scenarios, this would have turned into a tantrum, and nobody would have been happy. But I knew the power of asking questions. So I asked a very simple question. “Sweetie, what is it that you don’t like about brushing your teeth?”
You know what she said to me? I would never have expected this reply. She said, “I don’t like the toothpaste”. She said it with a hint of fear, as if brushing her teeth was an act that forced her to taste something awful. Immediately I remembered that we had just bought the kids a new tube of toothpaste. It was different than what we normally used. Obviously, she didn’t approve – but she hadn’t said anything before this moment.
I put my arm around her and said, “Oh – I understand … you are telling me that you don’t like the toothpaste. That’s ok. We don’t have to use that toothpaste. We can just brush with water tonight. No toothpaste. We can go to the store together and get you a new toothpaste that you’ll like”.
If you are thinking that I’m just a big softie, think again. There is no reason that I feel compelled to force my kid to brush with toothpaste that she hates. If I hated my own toothpaste, I’d throw it away and buy a new brand. Why treat her with any less respect? This isn’t prison.
In the end, she was completely happy to brush her teeth, just not with that particular brand of paste. I got her to bed with no fights, no crying, and plenty of hugs.
The most powerful lessons in life are often very simple. In this case, the lesson is to ask good questions. If your toddler doesn’t want to eat something, ask what it is about it they don’t like. If your child won’t wear a particular piece of clothing that you’re trying to dress him in, ask what he doesn’t like about it. You might just be surprised to find out that the food gets stuck in his teeth, or the shirt has a tag that itches the back of his neck. If you don’t ask, you’ll never know.
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